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| Becoming your own success story is hard. |
First, an example for why we should engage in continuous improvement and personal development:
- See yourself as the boss and the employee of your own life
- and then consider yourself to currently be the worst of both: you tell yourself strictly what to do but you never do it, right?
- how can you become a good boss and employee?
- by designing a negotiation-process for continuous improvement for yourself
- strive for continuous but step-by-step improvement
- Develop a profound routine:
- why? better to have a plan than to drift aimlessly through your life
- work on improving your routine over time, test different styles and see what works for you
- get up every day at the same time, even on weekends (more energy through solid circadian rhythm)
- do one hour of meditation daily. Suggestion: 40min in the morning and 20-30min in the evening
- pick the times when you work, when you exercise, when you study
- remind yourself every evening before going to bed what you are thankful for that happened that day. Maybe start a journal.
- set weekly goals of new things and challenges you want to do.
- Set a certain amount of time that you dedicate towards caring for your relationships
- Live your life as though you are already the version of yourself that you want to become
- Visualize daily, where you want to go and which goals you want to achieve
- Goals need to be kept alive. Ever wonder why you tend to forget about your motivation behind your goals? They die without constant reminders that keep you on track.
- Acting the way you want to become is the only way to get there. Change is inevitable.
- let your journey for personal development be guided by the best version of yourself
- constantly remind yourself of how you would think and act if you would already be that person and then, slowly over time, you will develop those habits and skills.
- In Buddhism they teach that you become free by letting go of your attachments
- Giving up materialistic possessions and attachments is only one side though
- Giving up attachments to who you currently are is the other side
- That means having no attachments to your current state of being because a lack of freedom is largely a conceptual limitation
- That is a tricky thing to do, because changing the self feels like letting parts of yourself die
- Seek out your errors
- Confront them in a way that does not crush you
- ask people of their opinion and listen with a non-judgmental, open mind
- When you feel fear, see it as an opportunity for growth
- Fear is the imaginary border off your comfort-zone, behind which, growth-opportunities lie
- Beyond that, the self imagines danger. Which feels very real, even though it usually is not